Adjusting to a New City: Surviving Many Bumps and Bruises

A long time ago (probably a year and a half ago), my wife and made plans to move to Boston from New Jersey. She had just accepted a new job based out of Boston, was midway through her graduate program, and we didn’t have any strong ties to NJ.

About that time, with one year until a potential move, I started looking at jobs listed in Boston to see what type of job I could transition to. I was desperate not to take a step back in my career. I wasn’t making a ton of money working a university so to take a step backwards would add insult to injury, so to speak. As luck would have it, I got a new job a couple months later that would allow me to transition to Boston when Mrs. 20s was finished with her graduate degree.

Two jobs in a new city secured one year before moving?!?! Yes, please. Considering that when we moved to New Jersey about five years ago, we signed a lease on a small 1 bedroom apartment before either of us having a job, we were thrilled to have an easy transition to an exciting new city.

Our transition couldn’t be better planned.

Or, so we thought.

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A look back at our move back in December

Challenges of Living In Boston: 6 Months in

You know what they say about the best laid plans…

As luck would have it, my wife found out about a month ago that she won’t be continuing with her current employer. I can’t go into too many details, but the short story is that it’s not an easy path going forward. She’s still job hunting and there are a few strong leads, but nothing is certain right now. It’s very likely that she will be jobless at least for a short period of time.

While we have adequate savings to survive financially, it’s emotionally trying for us to face this uncertainty. When you add the high cost of living and my modest salary, it’s not going to be fun if we have to watch our savings deteriorate slowly over time.

Suffice it to say, we didn’t expect this. I guess that’s the point – I suspect almost everyone thinks that their job is secure until it isn’t.

Adjusting to a New Home is Never Easy

While her job status was never threatened by moving to a new city, our story helps me realize that moving to a new city is never easy – in more ways than just your career. I knew this going into the move, but we were (and still are) determined that this move was the best move for us.

Not only do you typically have to find a new job, but are forced to start from scratch. You have to find new places to do everything:

  • a new place to shop for food
  • a trust-worthy repair shop for your car (I’m still searching for one if/when we will have car troubles)
  • dentist
  • doctor
  • other forms of shopping

The list could go on an on, but doesn’t even cover half of it. You also have to make new friends, change all of your state identification, etc. The past 6 months have been exciting, but they have been draining. It’s left me with very little energy to continue with my hobbies that I once enjoyed – like writing for this blog. (Luckily, I am starting to feel re-energized when it comes to blogging and hope to pick it back up again).

Despite all of the Challenges, We’re not Going Anywhere

We just got back from a (previously-scheduled and much-needed) week long vacation in upstate NY. Despite the uncertainty for Mrs. 20s’ job, we found ourselves relaxing by a beautiful lake with no major plans but to hang out with Maddie and my in-laws.


A picture of yours truly enjoying a trip on the kayak.


It was a great time and during our trip, Mrs. 20’s parents recently asked her what she would do if she can’t find a job – would we consider moving again?

While we don’t know what will happen with her job searching, we both agree that we like it here in Boston. This transition may not have gone as smoothly as we would have liked, but we’re happy where we’re at. We’re determined to make it work.

Readers, have you had to adjust to a new city? What did you do to ease the transition?

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